So I was talking to Cheng about letting go in relationships. Then I reminisce myself on those days, where I wished I was never in a relationship. Even crying myself to get out of the relationship that didn't mean to happen at all. I'm weird. But you know, it's better to tell your partner before it's too late. Tell them that you guys weren't meant to be together.
Yea sure. It be tough right now, but someone once told me , that it's better to have short pains, than long ones. What if, they ask you, "when did you stop.. loving me?" and you answered, "long time ago. I'm sorry I didn't wanna hurt you" . They'll get hurt even more deeper knowing you've lied to them just because you cowardly avoid hurting them. YOU KNOW IT'S NOT NICE TO LIE.
What I'm trying to say is, why torture yourself into something you don't like just for the sake of not hurting people's feeling? HEY, don't you matter? Why can't you just do something for the sake of yourself for a while?
Lemme ask you something? Do you want to have nothing , no good memories, nothing at all to tell your children next time? or . do you wanna encourage your kids to do something that was meant to be done by yourself as well ? NO. Do what you think is right, what you think you'll be happy with, trust me, you won't have regrets in the future. Then you'll be able to tell your kids, "yea, don't worry. It work with my life, so just go ahead. And follow what makes you happy the most" ♥
some people will say, oh they feel guilty for breaking people's feelings. Actually, you're just afraid it won't be the same anymore, or you're just afraid they won't treat you the same anymore. Because if you really care of people's feeling you have a choice in a first place. To let go or to hold on ? Lemme tell you this, YOU'LL BE OKAY. you'll be okay, yeah you're gonna feel guilty in a while, because you think you leave without a reason. because everybody change. YOU'LL BE OKAY. Because one day, somebody is gonna enter your life, and nothing else matter, except them. And you'll forget that guilt that you're feeling. Because it was never meant to be there. At All. YOU'LL BE OKAY. Because after the rain, there's always a rainbow. Even when you hurt somebody's feeling, or when you broke up with somebody , eventually they're gonna forget about it and move on. Nobody stay in the same position for a long time. Yea, they do in the movies, But this is life we're talking about. God always has a plan for each of us.
So don't worry so much . Don't worry about getting hurt or giving hurts. You know what matters most? YOUR HAPPINESS . ♥